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– kinesthetic thinking – she likes to touch, to stroke and often uses the expression “I feel”, “it touches me”, etc., – things in her hands must be pleasant to touch: soft silk napkins, thin graceful spoons or a champagne flute.
Of course, it is impossible to write what girl belongs to what group, but if you look at your beloved carefully and listen to her words, you will understand how to act to make this morning unforgettable. The main thing to remember is all girls love the smell of freshness and purity!
And finally, a little more Sergei Yesenin:
Scarlet light of dawn appears on the lake.Wood-grouses are crying in the forest.An oriole is crying somewhere, buried in a hollow.Only I do not cry – my heart is light.I know you will come out for the ring road one day,Let's sit together under stack of hay.I will kiss you drunk, like a fervent boy,I hope no one blame me for this simple joy.You will lose your mask with my caresses,I'll carry you drunk till the morning comes.And let the birds cry at a lawn.There is anguish merry in the awe of dawn.Chapter 7
Are you ready for children? A simple test. A child in the family: the pros and cons
For many men, especially guys who are under 35, this topic is absolutely irrelevant. Why? Because life priorities are clearly defined in a different plane: sex, hobbies and work. Therefore, the partner is being looked for these needs – she must be beautiful, sexy, interesting in communication, she should not be ashamed to show in society, go with her to the club or to hang out with friends.
But time passes, and the biological clock and logic turn on: how old will I be when my child goes to the first grade or when will he go through a transitional age? And will I be his authority?
After all, it is not a secret to anyone that the older the parents, especially if they have not achieved particular results in life, the less prestige they enjoy with their own children. Moreover, children are often shy of their parents, because dad is not so fast and not very strong, he is not recommended any entertainment, which an unruly teenager seeks – clubs, discos, motorcycles, extreme travel, etc.
Adult dad is very different from his son in the psycho-emotional sense, as the difference of generations becomes deeper every year and children move further away from their parents due to the development of the Internet and new and new gadgets supplied to the modern market. At the same time, the older the parents, accustomed to live communication, the more they suffer from the fact that their growing up children are more and more far from them and go into the virtual world, and the less they have to communicate with them. It really is!
We assume that you have found a woman and is ripe for the birth of a child. How to check if this is the woman with whom you are ready to raise your children? Are you ready for the fact that she may become fat after childbirth, her character may change, and most importantly, her attention will be directed not at you, but at the little screamer? After all, it is not easy to survive the reduction of your position to a secondary place at all: to run errands, not to get enough sleep, to adapt to the life rhythm of the baby, to postpone meetings with friends, to plan weekends and holidays under the schedule of the child, to change diapers, etc., etc. If you answer yourself: “Yes, I am ready,” then…
… Let's do a little test, and maybe you will immediately understand something for yourself.
Answer the following questions:
1. Do you have a job and a stable income, which allow you to live well?
2. Why do you need a family? Is it the prospect and goal of your future life?
3. What is your hobby? What do you like? Is your hobby related to your family?
4. Remember your family. What was it like? Do you remember your childhood and youth with pleasure? What place did mom and dad have in your life?
5. Can you imagine what your child will be like? How will you raise him? Do you have plans for his future?
6. Who do you want more: a daughter or a son?
7. Are you ready to play with the baby? What toys are interesting to you?
8. If a girl gets pregnant, what will your reaction be? If you answer all questions easily, it means that you are really ripe for not just being called a father, but for being a father! After all, it is the child who strengthens the relationship between spouses, in the event that they are based on the desire for a long life together.